We Do Recover
You suffered through the treatment center and you are just “enduring’ the recovery process. You were doing honorably remaining abstinent on your drinking. Furthermore, after that one night, a teammate demands that you get a drink after work. “Just a single drink.” It can’t hurt, you let yourself know. That is the careful situation you review when you wake up in the treatment facility the next morning.
A break in faith is one of the most baffling, humiliating experiences you can look in recovery from any issue affinity. It leaves you feeling contrite, humiliated and tempted to stop and just keep carrying on the addiction. Incredibly, descending back into active addiction seems so natural. As demonstrated by the National Institute on Drug Abuse, 40 to 60 percent of people who experience addiction treatment activities continue to slip on any occasion at least once. Honestly, people have different troubles before finally achieving a full recovery.
If you are new to sobriety, you may have already heard other people in recovery suggest that you stay single for your first year. If you are wondering what staying single has to do with recovery, you might be surprised that it has a lot to do with staying sober. In your first weeks and months of recovery, everything is new. It’s as though you are seeing the world from a completely different perspective. If you are in treatment or going to meetings, you’ll be seeing a lot of different people, and some may be a little more appealing than others. Keep in mind, who you find attractive now, will likely not meet your standards a little later. It sounds harsh, but this is a trap many newly sober individuals fall into.
If you want to avoid the ‘what was I thinking?’ mind chatter, focus on yourself. Your obsession with your drug of choice called you away from self-development. Recovery is your opportunity to get to know who you are. If you are getting to know someone else on an intimate level during this time period, you are once again being called away from yourself. Many of us have an utter lack of boundaries when we get to recovery and jumping into yet another relationship often ends in the same dysfunction that we know so well.
Another important thing to keep in mind is your vulnerability. People who are newly sober are easy targets for predators, and there are a lot of them in this world. If someone who is in recovery is pursuing you in your first year, be careful. They know what they’re doing, they don’t care, and they are hoping you fall victim to their charms. Don’t do it. Let them go bottom-feed somewhere else, this type of person is the last thing you need in recovery. Try gender-specific meetings, and make a commitment to yourself to stay single until after your first year. It sounds more difficult than it is, and you will be thankful you gave yourself the chance to heal, this time next year.
Where drugs or alcohol were used to fill a void, to comfort, and to numb feelings, a new filler may be used instead. Once the drug of choice is eliminated from a person’s daily life, work needs to done to figure out the reasons why she was using in the first place. It could be trauma, rejection, depression, anxiety, or stress. The reasons why people use are endless, but the reasons why you drink or use are of the utmost importance if you don’t want to go back down that dark road. Pay attention to what you are doing. It sounds simple and obvious, but it’s easy to miss. For instance, you were going to the gym every other day, then you started going daily—sometimes a couple of times a day. If you miss a workout, you feel guilty and can’t stop thinking about it and getting down on yourself, you need to be careful.
Perhaps you begin using people to fill the void. You are never alone, always dependent on someone else to make you feel good about yourself, and if they reject you, you are already moving onto the next relationship. Some addictions may appear innocent at the start, but can turn into unhealthy and even dangerous situations that you need to avoid. Use a therapist or your sponsor to help keep your thoughts and behaviors in check. Overcoming a drug or alcohol addiction is an incredible accomplishment.